Too often the mistake is made that to tolerate someone, or their lifestyle, or choices, you must accept their decisions, their ways.
This attitude, I think, says ”your morals are wrong, your values and choices are wrong”. This is unfair.
I feel a person can be tolerant without approving of the decisions they make, the lives others lead.
How can you call me intolerant because I don’t lead the life you do, or make the same choices that you do? Isn’t it enough that I chose to not let your choices come between us, or to hope (or even work towards) you having the freedom to make those choices?
Can only a Pagan be tolerant towards another Pagan, or are Christians ‘allowed’ to be tolerant towards Pagans? Do I have to have more than one lover to be tolerant towards those in polyamorous relationships, or is it possible for happily monogamous me to support those in such relationships? (edited to add that it doesn’t mean I disapprove of Pagans, poly relationships, it was just the easiest ones that came to mind.)
Just because I don’t agree with what you do doesn’t mean I am intolerant, and just because I am tolerant of what you do, doesn’t mean I approve.